I'm confused !

If you are not happy then it doesn't matter if they are a wife lover or both.In order to make a successful relationship work you need the 3 time zone.His time her time & our time.
His time he can do what ever he wants as long as he is faithful.
Her time same as above.
Our time no one around but us spending quality time together.

The best relationships start on the basis of friendship NOT sex.You have to respect each other & realize you are a couple & yet you both are individuals.To have one rule over the other kills the loving connection & makes you become a slave & resentful & hurt.In a successful relationship you both have moments together but you should also have the freedom to choose to follow your goals & have fun in your life without being attacked.No 2 people will ever have the exact same thought process or likes / dislikes.If we were all the same life would usless & pointless.When you love someone you HAVE to accept them just the way they are or not at all.Trying to change them to fit your lifestyle or concept is just wrong.I accept everyone & love them as they are flaws & all.If you can't open your heart & let your loved one know how you feel without them getting moody & causing drama then that is not the right person for you & you should both move on.Life is too short to be in a place where you are half miserable & half happy.You need an even balance in your life with emphasis on the happy part.Your true soulmate should be your very best friend & take your breath away everytime you see them.They make you wake up everyday thinking I am the most blessed person in the world to have someone like you in my life.

Swiftehz said:

If you are not happy then it doesn't matter if they are a wife lover or both.In order to make a successful relationship work you need the 3 time zone.His time her time & our time.
His time he can do what ever he wants as long as he is faithful.
Her time same as above.
Our time no one around but us spending quality time together.

The best.

dude i am serious this time. me & my wife, we love each other so much frm the beginning till now. may be till the end. but i had the same confusion. i watched Mark Gungor's marriage seminars. now i am so clear. u better watch.

wife is more than enough to be happy & to give trouble. having girlfriend wont make a big effect in happiness but a huge in trouble. the funny thing is we love troubles.

my personal advice is no need a girlfriend.